goodguy and LadyLace
Soul Mates
and our net/love history
with each other and others
To the people who think you can't fall in love over the net, I'm here to tell you different. I understand 100% where you're coming from because I said the same thing so many times, and I could not believe it was possible, until it happened to me.
I was on the net for about 1-1/2 years, and I had made some really great friends. Some of them became phone friends and snail-mail buddies. I even met one guy in Opti who was really 
brilliant and funny. After talking to him for about 3 months, I went to meet him on a beach in Mississippi that was about half way between our houses. We had a very nice day and evening. He really was a funny guy, and he remained an officer and a gentleman (a Navy pilot) the whole time, so I made a date to go back and meet him again in a few weeks. I guess you can say I dated him a few times. It was all good, but not a relationship that I wanted to take to the level of intimacy, but I didn't talk to other guys while I was talking to him *old fashioned* lol
On the third meeting (by this time we had been talking for about 7 months) he asked me to marry him, and he had a huge diamond engagement ring with him. I was in total shock. I didn't see that coming at all :-( He had told me he loved the person I was, and how much he respected me for the way I handled life, but not one time did he say "I'm in love with you." I had the utmost respect for him, we laughed a lot, and I really enjoyed his company, but at no time did I give him the impression that I wanted anything more. I ran like a bat out of hell. I had decided I wanted to be alone because my marriage had broken up and I didn't want another serious relationship for a long long time. I was so disillusioned with the whole concept of being a 'couple'...until I met my goodguy.
My Sammy had made the decision to be alone too. He had felt love for a woman on the net before. They didn't really argue or fight or have any serious problems between them. After they had been together about 7 months, one day, out of no where, she told him it was over. He was in shock. He didn't see that coming either, just like what happened to me. He was so hurt at the coldness of the situation. He then decided he wanted no part of that ever again. He had decided that he would just waste time on the net, and be a player like all the other guys *awwwwww...my sweetie* and just wait to meet the woman of his dreams. And then...
We met each other. Our meeting is so strange. All the circumstances of our meeting each other fell into place like some kind of Divine intervention was working there. Real magic. We were both in Opti for over a year, and yet, we had never run into each other. Probably had never even been in the room at the same time because we both remember distinctly seeing each others' names for the first time, and that was within days of our formal introduction by a mutual friend, Kacz. The strange, yet magical part is that before we were introduced, neither of us were available to start a relationship. We were both very faithful to the people we were with, and would have never dreamed of getting together. The timing and everything about our meeting each other fell into place perfectly...like magic.
From the first moment he saw "LadyLace" make some action in Opti, the name never left his mind. He said he thought about this name, and who was the lady behind this name, constantly. The same for me. From the moment Kacz told me "do you know my buddy, goodguy?", I became obsessed with who is the man behind this name. For days we looked for each other constantly and made little comments to each other just to be connected somehow, but we were both scared to death of each other. Neither of us wanted to say a wrong word to scare the other one away. After a few days he got the courage to ask if I had ICQ. *faint* goddddd "Sure I do, do you?" *eg* "Oh, yes...wanna add me?" "Sure" :-)))))) The first message he sent me was "*Hugs* sweetie" *melt* I was dying. I swear I felt like a school girl and didn't know what to say. The man made me speechless...and still does after all this time *smile*
We fell hopelessly and madly in love with each other. Sight unseen. Total addiction. I fought the feeling like crazy. I didn't want any part of a net relationship. He was so secure, and so positive of what he was feeling, that he would not allow me to run away. And, God knows I tried to run away so many times because I thought it was all so crazy.
Six months later, when I stepped off the plane and into his arms, we both felt like we had 'come home.' There was no feelings of our meeting for the first time. Everything we had developed between us on the net was 100% real. And, because net relationships consist of talking and talking and talking, when we're together in real life we say very little. It's as if because of the millions of words spoken online and on the phone, we 'just know.' Holding hands while watching the sun go down goes without words...we know!
It's been 14 months now. Neither he nor I have ever even been tempted to 'play around' not on the net, not in real life. All of plans have been made, and we're saving up enough money for him to move to my city. He will be here with all his worldly goods in less than 6 months. The excitement is about to kill us both :-)
The other guy I dated a few times, personally knows 6 couples who met online and are happily married. I know it sounds strange to people because the 'net' is still so new, but this is the wave of the future, and there will come a time when meeting married couples who met on the net will be very ordinary.
Goddd can't believe I actually told this story in public :-) but I just want you to know...Yes it's possible! And, yes I know the odds are probably against net relationships working out, but that's because it's hard as hell to maintain some semblance of normality here online. Also, it's amazing how many people have tried to come between us and break us up. I don't have a clue as to why people online have a problem with seeing other people happy, but that does seem to be a HUGE problem. I know that sometimes people feel that way in real life, but on the net, people, many times, most times, I should say, treat other people as if they weren't real people.
I think if the couple can fight past all the interference in the beginning, and still stick together, then the odds are the same. If we break up now, it'll be for something we did to each other, because NO ONE on earth, and especially online could come between us now.
Up Date - September 24, 2000
I flew into New York on September 13, 2000. When Sam and I held each other in the airport, it was like coming home. We just stood there and hugged, without words, for a long time. After making a few stops, and having a civil ceremony just to make us 'legal' to show respect for this love we have nurtured so tenderly for almost 2 years, we began our 1,500 mile road trip home.
I can't even find the words to explain our immediate comfort level with each other. Oh, I was sweating from excitement and nervousness, but he was so cool, and kept laughing at me and saying how he loved to make me sweat :-) We both have this need to touch each other constantly. Even now, after 12 days of being together constantly, we still have this need for contact. A hand on the shoulder, little fingers connected...any little touch. It's as if we still can't believe this is real. It's been so long, and the struggle to be together has really been so hard. We are both adults and could have just threw caution to the wind a long time ago, and just moved together without having a plan, but since the very first day we met, we've been so careful not to make a wrong step.
It's much too personal to list all the reasons why, but we both feel that there was some kind of Divine intervention that brought us together. As I mentioned above, the perfect timing, meeting on the internet where there are millions of chat rooms, and millions of people, etc., but also the fact that a Muslim man from Jordan in the Middle East, would meet a Catholic woman from the American south, and find so much in common that we feel like we've known each other for eternity...for all of these reasons, and so many more, we knew this was a "once in a lifetime" opportunity, and we knew we had one chance to do it right. For that reason, we stayed apart for almost 2 years to have our lives in order, so that our only focus would be on each other in the beginning.
I hadn't really told anyone online any details of what's going on between Sam and I. Then I decided to share our happiness with Carly. She's been an awsome friend to me, and has cheered us on, and shown the most support and understanding of what we were going through. The description that follows was cut from the letter I wrote Carly. It's about the best words I can come up with for the description of how I'm feeling right now.
It's wonderful, beyond anything I could have imagined. The few
stolen days we had together here and there for the last 2 years, didn't even give me a clue as to what this man was all about. I swear, I don't even know how to explain to you how he makes me feel. I find single red roses on my pillow when I get home from work; when I go to the kitchen to cook, he's right behind me peeling potatoes, washing dishes, and doing anything he can to make my life easier. He WASHED and WAXED my car!!! God have mercy...I've never had a man do that for me. He opens doors, pulls out chairs, loves to brush my hair *ahhhh*...how can I explain? And, he's shown the utmost respect to my son by never touching me in front of him. He's extremely "manly", but yet, he sometimes gets tears in his eyes when I look in his eyes and tell him how much I truly love him. His photos do him no justice. There's no way they can convey the beauty, and strength, yet gentleness, this man has. And, he has this wonderful, whole-hearted, infectious laugh. His constant, huge embraces make me feel so safe and secure, yet, at the same time, he has such an innocent, boy like quality, that it makes me want to protect him from this messed up world. Both of us (this is weird:) get actual pains in our chests when we feel over-come with love for each other. It feels like my chest (heart?) is going to explode with the abundance of love I feel for him...he feels the same.
See what I mean sis? How can I say these things to just anyone? Who would understand, or appreciate what I'm saying, or care? I'm so tired of people saying we make them sick. I know it's joking and they don't mean it at all, but what they don't understand is, we haven't even given them 1% of how we're actually feeling. They don't even have a clue as to what's going on over here, and there's no way I could ever share it with a bunch of people who are constantly playing games with each other.
God help us to never take this love for granted. We're blessed, and we know it. :-)
"A Poem for goodguy" Written by LadyLace
His Love
Our Love
I Love You
A Love
Without You
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